From the time my boys were small, I’ve made it a point to discuss sex with them in ways that are suitable for their age. They are aware of the origins of babies; they grasp that they are in control of their own bodies; they’re not startled by conversations about tampons.
However, as they transition into young men, I sometimes ponder late at night, will they still heed their old mom’s advice? What about the other teens in their circle? What are they absorbing from online platforms and the world around them? Who are the positive male role models influencing them?
Sex education in Mean Girls
This morning, I stumbled upon the TikTok account Sex Ed for Guys, managed by students at Colby College. Their mission is to educate youngsters on making healthy choices regarding their sexual lives, and I must say, my heart swelled with pride…! One video elaborates on the fact that intoxicated individuals cannot give informed consent; another promotes the idea of male friends sharing platonic affection for one another, and another urges checking in on friends who appear to be having a tough time.
And two videos that made me chuckle? These exercise routines to show respect for women:
@sexedforguys Someone’s got to show respect to these women, why not step up? #fyp #foryoupage #4u #trend #women #funny
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@sexedforguys The toxic males are really gonna dislike this one. #fyp #foryoupage #4u #trend #hit #viral
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I absolutely adore this account!
Now I’m intrigued: How do you approach conversations about sex with your kids? Are there any books you recommend? Who do you deem to be positive male role models? (I admire Steph Curry for his sportsmanship, mentorship, and vocal support for his family and spouse.) I care deeply for all these wonderful boys. xo
P.S. Six vital words to share with your child, my tribute to Queer Eye, and five strategies to teach kids about consent.
(Photo courtesy of Duet Postscriptum/Stocksy.)
**A Lighthearted Approach to Sex Education for Boys: Laugh, Learn, and Relax**
Let’s be real—discussing sex can be uncomfortable. Whether you’re a teen boy traversing the tumultuous waters of puberty or a parent attempting to tackle “the talk” without passing out, sex education doesn’t have to be an embarrassment. In fact, with a sprinkle of humor and transparency, it can be truly enlightening—and even enjoyable. So gear up, guys, for a fun (but genuinely informative) exploration of sex education for boys.
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### Chapter 1: Puberty—The Awkward Awakening
Ah, puberty. That enchanting phase where your voice sounds like a broken record and your armpits suddenly resemble a high school locker room. It’s as if your body is saying, “Congratulations! You’re on your way to manhood… sort of.”
**What to Anticipate:**
– **Voice Changes:** One moment you’re squeaking like a cartoon character, the next you sound like an evil overlord. Don’t sweat it—it will stabilize.
– **Hair Growth Everywhere:** Yes, including *there*. Totally normal. No need to panic.
– **Growth Spurts:** You could transform overnight from an elf to a basketball player. Or maybe not. Everyone’s timeline differs.
– **Emotional Swings:** One instant you’re giggling, the next you’re sobbing because your snack crumbled. Hormonal chaos.
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### Chapter 2: The Birds, the Bees, and the “Wait, What?”
Let’s demystify things: sex isn’t only something portrayed in films or depicted in health class diagrams. It’s a natural aspect of life, and comprehending it is crucial—not just for your body, but for your mind and emotions as well.
**The Essentials:**
– **Sex is not a competitive event.** There are no prizes, no scoring, and no rush needed.
– **Consent is fundamental.** If it’s not an explicit and eager “yes,” it’s a no. Always.
– **Protection is vital.** Condoms are your trusty ally. They prevent pregnancies *and* STIs. Plus, they come in cool packaging.
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### Chapter 3: The Intriguing Realm of Feelings
Spoiler: sex isn’t merely a physical experience. It’s also emotional, psychological, and can be quite perplexing. You might feel everything from exhilaration to worry to “Why do I suddenly feel like penning poetry?”
**Strategies for Managing Emotions:**
– It’s normal to develop crushes. And it’s perfectly okay if they don’t reciprocate. Rejection builds character (and makes for excellent song lyrics).
– Share your feelings. With buddies, family, or a trusted adult. Bottling them up is like shaking a soda bottle—eventually, it will burst.
– Honor others’ feelings. Relationships require two participants. Don’t hog the attention.
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### Chapter 4: The Internet—Ally or Adversary?
Let’s be honest: the internet is stocked with information, but not all of it is accurate. Especially regarding sex.
**Things to Be Wary Of:**
– **Pornography is not a real-life manual.** It’s for entertainment, not education. Real-life relationships don’t involve background music or special angles.
– **Misinformation is rampant.** If you’re curious, rely on trustworthy sources like Planned Parenthood or your school’s curriculum—not your cousin’s social media channel.
– **Privacy is essential.** Don’t distribute private images or messages. The internet has a long memory.
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### Chapter 5: Hygiene—Because Smelling Like a Sports Bag Isn’t Attractive
Good hygiene goes beyond impressing others—it’s about taking care of yourself.
**Daily Routine:**
– Shower. Yes, every single day. Especially after experiencing the joy of perspiration.
– Use deodorant. Apply it as though your social life depends on it. (Spoiler: it does.)
– Fresh clothing. That shirt from last week? It’s not vintage; it’s just dirty.
– Oral hygiene. Bad breath can ruin your chances. Brush and floss like your future relies on it. (It truly does.)
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### Chapter 6: The Broader Perspective
Sex education transcends biology—it’s about evolving into a respectful, knowledgeable, and self-assured individual. It’s about knowing your body, respecting others, and making wise choices.
**Final Reflections:**
– You don’t need to have all the answers immediately. Learning is a process, not a dash.
– Don’t hesitate to ask questions. There’s no such thing as a silly question—except for the one you don’t pose.
– Be gentle with yourself. You’re growing, evolving, and trying to figure everything out. That’s courageous.
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**In Summary:**
Sex education doesn’t have to be daunting or dull. With a touch of humor, a lot of transparency, and a readiness to learn, you can journey through this phase of life confidently—and perhaps even a little joyfully.
