This week, as Toby and I are off to visit my sister, I thought it might be fun to revisit an older post. Here’s one from June 2023 that often crosses my mind. xoxo
We’ve tackled questions from readers before, and today we’re excited to dive into it once more. Here are three more, featuring how to spruce up your home affordably and become a better listener…
Q. “What outfits are you rocking this summer? I loved last year’s post on the CoJ team’s fashion choices and want to know what everyone’s wearing this time around, too.” — Ursula
A. We can’t wait to do an updated post! In the meantime, while browsing old photos (why does iPhoto always pull on the heartstrings?), I noticed that each summer I rely on one MVP casual black dress, perfect for every setting — dining with friends, biking, playground visits, traveling, you name it. I recall feeling both disheveled and jetlagged in England last summer and changing into a black denim dress prompted my stylish aunt to remark, “Jo, suddenly you look so chic!” Clear proof that a LBD rescues any day. Here are four that will be fabulous this summer: midi, mini, V-neck, linen.
Q. “I adore Cup of Jo house tours and dream of our home exuding vibrancy, yet we’re working with a tight budget. Do you have any thrifty design tips that can infuse our house with our essence? I’d appreciate it forever.” — Z.
A. Dear Z., let me reintroduce you to the concept of a fakeover, also known as a makeover you accomplish simply by rearranging what you already have. Try angling your sofa differently, or swap artwork between spaces. It’s remarkable how a little tweaking can create a huge impact. Hanging family photos is another way to personalize your home — they’ll bring you joy, and they’re virtually free!
Or, if you’re seeking a change in hues or textures, opt for new decor rather than new furniture. In the photos above, I transformed our gray sofa with four pillows from Article. Voilà! The nook suddenly feels perfectly cozy for book reading or lengthy chat sessions with a friend. Such a delightful and easy way to refresh your living space. Best of luck!
Q. Some of my friends have been going through tough times recently (pregnancy loss, divorce…), and though I wish to support them, I often find myself stumped for words and end up acting awkwardly. A friend pointed out before that I sometimes focus excessively on positivity during heavy discussions. I don’t want to make anyone feel neglected or unloved. Could you share any advice on being a safe space?” — Beena
A. Oh, Beena, this is such a thoughtful question! And I’d love to hear what’s worked for others from the CoJ community. In my view, three comforting phrases are: “Thank you for telling me” and “That sounds really hard” and “Tell me more.” Often, people just need to speak their hearts and feel heard, and listening is truly a gift. When I rang my father after my stepfather’s death last December, amidst my tears, he softly kept saying, “I understand,” as I spoke and wept. I will always treasure that conversation and its significance. Simplicity can indeed be touching. The very fact that you’re posing this question shows you’re a caring friend.
Sending lots of love, and please share your thoughts below! Additionally, feel free to leave questions in the comments for upcoming columns, if you wish. xoxo
P.S. More queries from readers, and five approaches to becoming a better listener.
(Photos of the living room by Christine Han.)
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